Why I’m not talking to my kids this summer…


Every morning around 6 I hear it. The pop of a door, the patter of the feet, the screams of “he’s not sharing!!” And my morning begins.

Normally I try to resolve the issues as the come up. Normally I end up screaming. I really do try hard not to yell at my kids. I love them. I truly do. But there’s only so many times you can say “stop” “put that down” “don’t poop on the floor”. It’s been a long summer. We’re only a week in.

So for the sake of my voice, and my liver, I’m trying not to talk TO my kids. Instead I’m trying to talk with my kids. We all know the feeling of getting a talking to. We sit there and let the person say their peace, silently thinking of what we want for dinner.

My boys are the same. No matter how many times I say “don’t throw the clothes!” They always do. They say sorry and we repeat the cycle. So this morning as I was shoving whoever’s clothes into whatever draw, I paused. I took a breath. I walked out of the room. My boys followed.


“What’s wrong Mommy?” Asked big bear

“Well, you see, I spend a lot of time cleaning your clothes and putting them away. It makes me really upset when you make a mess of them. I would really like you to not throw the clothes around the room. Can you tell me why you did that?”

I got a shrug from little bear. At 3 I don’t expect much. Aside from randomly meditating at breakfast.


But big bear told me they thought is was a game. It was fun to throw the clothes around. I asked him if he thought there might be another game they could play next time they want to be wild.

And here was the learning moment for me. I allowed him time to think it through. I worked on having him be part of the conversation. I worked on not screaming at them when I got blank stares.

“We could go outside and throw a ball or play on the swings.”

“That’s a great idea. Let’s do that next time.”


So I took a breath and sent them out. I gave them a space to be wild and asked for a space to stay calm. I was super mom. I felt I earned the right to sit down and relax…. And take another deep breath.


9 more weeks to go….



Finding My Passion and Being a Stay at Home Mom.

Finding Your PassionSo I have two boys. They are awesome! Awesome at making me smile and question my sanity. Most times on the same day. But this has nothing to do with my kids. Or my husband (he’s awesome too and also drives me crazy)

This has to do with me. I’m not 20, at all. I’m not past my prime either. I’m stuck on that zone of “I’ve been a mom for just a bit too long to go back to where I was” If you have kids you might know this feeling. You know you rock as a mom. Your kids are happy and know you love them. Just the right amount a discipline and mess happens in your house. But then after everyone has gone to bed and you are left with your thoughts for the first time since 5am when the first request for yogurt raisins came, you think “is this all I’m going to do?”

Now don’t get me wrong!! Being a stay at home is a full time rewarding job! It’s hard on a good day. But I (like many) came from a creative background and find it hard to be happy just making salt dough decorations.

I want to be were my people are. I want to see, want to see them crafting! Walking around with those, what do you call them? Lattes!! (I’m such a 90’s kid).


Anyway. I had a sit down with my best sounding board, my hubs. And talked the big talk. What do I want to be when I grow up? What is one thing I would do if time, money, family were all in place? Where do I see myself doing the most good? It was a hard talk but necessary. Thankfully I have an amazingly supportive partner in this journey.

All the answers came down to I love to craft. I love to talk to people about being healthy. I love to try new things. All things I do now, here, in this blog. But are they my passion? Are they how I will find my path? I can point to many women leading the life I would love to.




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Each putting their own vibe and spin on living a healthy, busy life. But can I do that? Could I dear tell people my thought? Well I sort of already am. Maybe I can do this? Can you really make your own path and live the life you want and still be a stay at home? Maybe with all the new freedom from great app on the phone I can… This summer will be the real test. Full time stay at home with two energy balls and no camps planned.

So I’m coming up with a plan. I’ll need to brain storm and plan a lot. A LOT! Meals, schedules, playdate don’t take care of themselves. Invest in a good planner. I’m finding the Sugar Paper planner from Blue Sky to be working great for me! Add a little washi tape and stickers and boom! You know when what’s going down!

From there I’ll need to make sure I’m carving time out for myself. And really do it. I won’t be staying home if I can help it. The dish’s will gently whisper to me from the kitchen as the children loudly scream from the living room. I will get nothing done, trust me! So I will take a day (or days) and a time and make it mine. I like CrossFit so I’ve found a time that I can go and it’s mine. My precious, no touchy, MINE! 😉

Working out is

On Sunday I will take some time after the kids have gone to bed and everything is done and plan the week. I know I need to talk to hubs since he has a ever changing schedule. I know every week might be different so I make sure I know his schedule and plan mine around his. Now I’m not putting myself second. His schedule provides more for our family finically than mine so his takes priority. I still value my time just as much, but I can shift a lot easier than he can. Expect Mon Wed Fri at 9:15 (for realz no touchy!!)

Then there’s the need to create and provide something positive into the world. Here comes the up tick in blogging. My goal is to add more content to this fun little forum and build something that helps other and myself. Make sure to follow me on Instagram too (that’s where all the pretty stuff is) I will try to get back to my plan of a blog for moms (and dad and parents in all forms) to find someone else who have no idea what’s going on but still trying to fake it till they make it. I will add recipes and health tips that will help busy families. And even write about things we deal with in real life. Like how we are going camping over an hour away with a kid that gets carsick…… wait, what? I have to get some plastic bags and Clorox…..

Thanks for reading my ramble. Wish me luck!

The war on Legos

It never fails. We get in the car and start on our journey to, anywhere really, and I hear. I dropped one as soon as I turn on to the road.

See I have two boys who love Legos. Like these little plastic pieces are creeping into every corner of my life. I find them in the bathroom, the bedrooms, the closets, on the soccer field, anywhere except the playroom. And now they are in my car.

Now I have nothing against Legos. I enjoy playing with them too. But when we’re running late and I hear the beginning of a break down because I can’t pull the car over in rush hour traffic to get a blue block from under the passengers seat, well I find myself less of a fan. Take that and times it by two and I’ll be in the corner trying to salvage what’s left of my once warm coffee.

So being a mom and having been raised in the “oh I can make that” mantra, I set to solving this problem. Thank you Pinterest collective.

I saw I wasn’t the first person to have this issue. And if you are reading this I wasn’t the last. So let’s get to it shall we?

The supplies: (some of the listed products are affiliate links. Thank you for your support)

Sterilite Box (I used 11×6 5/8 x 2 3/4) 

LEGO 13×13 board (I got two boards out of this)

Glue (just buy it so you don’t spend 20 min looking for it)

Xacto knife (for the cutting)

That’s it. Then wait until bed/nap time and get to it.

Take your board and find the middle. Place LEGO on one side and use that to make a straight line and to make sure there is enough space for the LEGO piece to fit.

Once the cut is made bend the board and break the pieces apart.

Glue it to the top of the box and fill it with Legos! And done! Store them in the back of the front seats of your car and enjoy not pulling over and looking like a crazy person.

Not into making stuff? Or don’t have the time? No worries! I found a company the makes them

5 Simple and Healthy Back to School Lunches – and how to pack them

It’s almost August, which means it’s almost September, which means it’s time to think about back to school. Or in our case starting school. They weren’t kidding when they said time goes by fast when you have kids. As I was thinking about Bear starting school he walked in to show me he lost his first tooth. I could feel my hair going gray. When did he get so big?

Anyway. Bear is also starting kindergarten in the fall. Full day kindergarten with a bus pick up and everything. Not sure how I will do with this but it’s time. I know I won’t be able to control who he sits next to at lunch or pretty much anything about his day, but I can send him out with a good meal and maybe a nice note. He also started reading just to make my wrinkles come in too.

So I figured a few of you might be in the same boat as me and might want a few ideas. I’m not saying school lunches are bad, I just think they are given the short end of the funding (like art and gym) but that’s for another time. School lunch programs help a lot of kids get access to food they might not otherwise get. It’s a sad reality but food insecurity effects about 13 million kids in the US. Schools step up to help them and their families. So I am in no way mocking or knocking down the school lunch program when I say, ketchup isn’t a vegetable. Plus Bear eats a lot and I can only imagine what the bill would be if I let him run free at lunch time.

I know it can seem overwhelming to plan, shop and make lunches for a kindergartener but trust me you can do it! You just need a follow a few steps.

Step one: Set up a prep station. We have a huge island in our kitchen now but you can use any cleared off space. A dinning room table works great.

Step two: Gather all your equipment. By that I mean get all your ziplock bags, tupperware containers, lunch boxes, utensils and anything else you will need to pack up the lunches. I decided to go with the Sistema Plastics line. I like them because they are easy for little hands to open and dishwasher safe. Plus Hubs has been know to use them from time to time when our containers are no where to be found.

Step three: Create an assembly line. Lay out all your containers and start filling them with the main lunch. This will avoid the urge to overfill with snacks and treats. There’s no perfect lunch plan so just do your best. If you fed your kid, you win! Once you have the main lunch in add in snacks and treats. Don’t forget the drink!

Step four: Store it. I cleared off a shelf in our fridge just for packed lunches. It makes it easy to find in the busy morning shuffle. From there it’s as easy as grab and go.

Now reading this you might think, well that sounds easy but… And I get it. There are always things that pop up and sometimes it’s hard to get things done with little ones underfoot. So here are few tips and tricks to help.

Include your child in the process: From meal planning to meal prep, include your child. Don’t let them go to the grocery store alone but ask them what they want and take them with you. Make it a game. Let them “find” the lunch stuff.

Make it the highlight of their day. Maybe it’s a cool now lunch box. Maybe it’s a fun note. Make lunch something they look forward to at school. Make your own version of Lunchables for them to assemble at the table.

Stick with it. It might seem like its not worth it, or it would be easier to just let them buy lunch, but there is so much value in teaching your child how to plan and create a meal.

Many adults today do not know how to create a balanced meal. There’s no “right” way to eat. There are plenty of wrong ways. But let’s focus on some of the things the “right” ways have in common. Minimally processed foods, a good amount of fresh veggies and a reasonable helping of fruit. Every diet (I really don’t like that word btw) will tell you different concepts of this simple idea. Eat real food. Ok I’m getting down from my high horse and finally giving you what you came here for.

5 Simple and Healthy Back to School Lunches:

  1. Caesar Salad wrap with fruit, yogurt and popcorn
  2. Hard boiled eggs with cheese and tomato kabobs
  3. Ham and Cheese on homemade bread with red peppers, pepperoni and a banana with fruit snack (big hit!!)
  4. Salmon Patties (or tuna) with veggie sticks and dip
  5. Last Nights Dinner (with a few additions)IMG_2988


Homesteading like a City Girl: How to build a compost bin for around $5

So, about 2 weeks ago we bought a house. Hash tag adulting ya’ll! Anyway, we have plans for this little piece of earth of ours. Hubs wants to add solar, I’m getting a rain barrel and chickens are lined up for next spring. The garden has been planned but first we need a mower. We went from a second floor apartment to a two level house with an acre of land! Now I know for some an acre might not seem like a lot but for us it’s Gods country out here! And we love it!!

So one thing I really wanted to do was start full on composting so the garden will be good to go next spring. Why? Well one main reason is composting can remove 20-50% from your household waste. Like wow! Why wouldn’t you want to do it?

Now if you’ve never composted let me let you in on a few things.

  1. It doesn’t smell if done right. I know it seems counter intuitive to keep decomposing food on your counter, but, with a charcoal filter and adding only the right things there’s no smell at all. There are a lot of things you CAN add and a few you CANNOT.  I’ll break that down in a minute.
  2. It take little to no effort. You’re going to throw all that stuff away anyway just turn left to the counter instead of the garbage. By making it part of your routine I won’t notice the little extra work at all. I even got my 5 year old to do it for me.
  3. It’s safe. I had a friend tell me he heard compost bins catch on fire all the time. It’s just not true. With minimal effort it’s a completely safe practice. There are some things to consider when you are setting up your backyard bin. Again I’ll go into more detail in just a minute.

Let’s looks a little bit more into what you CAN compost:
Green and Brown composting.
Green compost refers to the the nitrogen-rich materials you should be adding to your compost pile. Things like grass clippings and kitchen scraps, plants and coffee grounds are all considered green compost. Brown compost refers to paper, leaves, straw, egg shells and tea bags. I tend to think of it as green for fresh and brown for dried. You want to try to keep a 4:1 browns (carbon) to greens (nitrogen) ratio for your compost pile. Currently I have waaaay too much green in my pile. But I will be fixing that by adding in some broken down cardboard, one it is no longer needed as a spaceship.

So what CAN’T you compost?
What to keep out of your compost bin:
Most things are ok to put in the bin but a few you really do what to keep out. One being cat and or dog (and other carnivores) waste. You could get sick from it. Their waste often contains microorganisms and parasites that you do not want to introduce to the crops you will be eating. Just saying… You will also want to avoid fish and meat scraps. You can use fish bones to help your garden grow, however, adding them into your compost pile might attract local wild life and cause a not so neighbor friendly smell. Most paper is totally fine, but glossy paper should be avoided since gain it won’t breakdown properly and could contain toxins you don’t want in your soil. Lastly ash from coal fires or charcoal-briquet fires should be avoided since they can make your soil too acidic, and that can harm your plant.

Setting up your backyard compost bin:
There are tons of different models and designs to chose from when it comes to compost bins. You *could* buy a $400 counter compost bin or a $90 tumbler bin. But if you just want to do you part to save the earth and save some of your own green, I would suggest getting a simple bin like mine. I have the Epica Stainless Steel Compost Bin. Love it! Simple to use and clean. From there I built my own backyard compost bin for just about free! Heres what I did:


Find some pallets – I found 4 pallets for free from my local hardware store. Some places might charge you but most are happy to get rid of them. You will need 4 of roughly the same size. Be ready to lift. The ones I got were heavy and I carried them an acre to get them set up.

Get some zip ties – I bought a few zip ties for about $5 at a local store. These ones worked great. Plan on using 3 to make one loop.

Plan your area – Take a minute and think about where the best spot would be for your pile. I chose a spot a little out of the way. Not as much sun as I would like. But I have two curious boys, so out of the way was best. Plus I wanted it far enough from the house that if any critters did start digging around they wouldn’t be tempted to check out my fridge. You will also need to have enough air flow around your pile to help with the decomposition. Make sure the area can drain well and is relatively free of ground plants and vines.

Set up your bin – Take two pallets and tie them together. Tie one more pallet to create a U shape. For the last pallet attach one side and leave the other one open so you can get in to turn the pile.

That’s it! With a little care and some time you will have a great pile of gardening gold.


Just to touch on the concerns of composting. It is extremely rare for composts pile to catch fire on their own. They will generate heat and steam, but if you turn the pile from time to time there should be no issues. Practice good hygiene when dealing with compost. Don’t have a picnic on top of one and you should be fine.

Happy composting!!

3 free ways to invest in yourself and 1 that’s worth the money

I received this product for free from Moms Meet (momsmeet.com) to use and post my honest opinions. Compensation for this post was provided and this page may contain affiliate links.

We moved!! Like yesterday. Into a great new home. Huge yard (chickens here I come) more living space and friends in the area! This house is the total package for us. But there’s one thing about this house I’m the most excited about. It’s this one area. And the thing that makes it so special is that it’s for me. My space to workout. My space to write. My space to be.

This got me thinking about the importance of having your own space. No matter where you are in your life. As a mother I find it’s important to remind myself I’m more than just a mom. So here a little list of things I’m doing/setting myself up to do to keep my space. Both physically and mentally.

Meditation: Cost $0
Create a space that is your own. You don’t need a whole room for this. It can be a chair in the quite part of your home. Or a closet if you have children like mine. Spend a few minutes focusing on your breathing to help clear your mind. Set your intentions and focus on what kind of day you want to have. Then face the crazy awaiting you. If you would like to invest in some training to help you I suggest my friend Emily Aarons from Life Made Simple with Emily Aarons.

Working Out: Cost $0- $50
A walk cost nothing to do but can give you so much back in return. I know first hand there are about a million and one things you can spend you money on for work out gear. From yoga mats to full home gyms. But honestly you are enough. Read that again. You do not need to spend all your money to feel good. You also don’t need to be a size two. You do however need to be healthy to feel good. Think about your area and maybe plan out a walking/running route. Ask a friend to join if you need some accountability. I got an old treadmill from a family member to help me on days when I’m stuck at home with the boys or the weather is bad. I also have a yard. These things are great!! Lunges, planks, push-ups, you can do them all for free in your yard!! Don’t know what to do? Check out my Pinterest board for at home work outs

Claiming a Space: Cost $0 – $100
This can be a big one for some people. Often as a mother I like to make sure there’s a space for my kids, there’s a place for my husband, and that the fridge is full. After that I tend to not think about what I need. I don’t think about what is important to me. But as we are in a new house it’s the perfect time to stop and not only think about it but also do it! Here’s what my thought process was:

What do I want to do in this space? Well I want to be able to work out. I want to be able to blog/work.

What is the most important thing to make sure that happens? Having enough space for a treadmill and a desk. Having electricity and internet connections.

What would be nice to have in the space? Some natural light and the ability to keep an eye on the boys.

After that it comes down to implementing some style. Even if it doesn’t go with the rest of the house it’s ok. The idea is for it to be a space that when you are in it you enjoy it.

Healthy Choices: Cost $15-$70
So with all the changes in my life I started noticing, shall we say, issues with my health. Thankfully nothing serious, just digestive issues. It happens sometimes. Stress wreaks our bodies like my 2 year old wreaks a coloring books. Add in the unavoidable take out and excess coffee intake, I’m less then in my prime right now. So I decided to try Restore. Restore is a health supplement that helps strengthen your gut. I got to try to sinus spay, the travel bottle and the month supply. First honest reaction was it taste like pond water. Tempting I know. But I wanted to try this for two weeks for a few reasons. One, gut health is so important, 60-70% of our immune systems in our gut membranesystem! That’s a lot. The gut also creates 80% of our antibodies.

So when the stress of moving with two kids to an area I don’t really know with only one car stared to get to me, I thought hey couldn’t hurt. And it was weird, it didn’t. It actually helped. I noticed a change in my mood and my digestive issues seemed to subside. Well that’s win for me. Actually Restore was proven in lab studies and peer reviewed studies to protect the gut lining against the effects of gluten. I’ve been eating a lot of pizza.


So how does this magical bottle of not amazing tasting, but worth it stuff work? Well Restore strengthens the gut lining, which keeps chemicals and
fiber from escaping through that lining and getting out into the bloodstream, which the immune system would have to deal with. SCIENCE!

Check them out. And if you want to give them a try use the code B7X66JY. Code expires July 16, 2017

Working in a flexibly scheduled life: How to be a working stay at home mom

You would think that 5 years in to this whole mom things I would be oozing advice about how to handle life and kids and dishes and a husband who gets called in to work with a major magazine with one days notice on a holiday weekend, better. But I’m not. I’m sitting here writing in hopes that this will help me as much as it helps you. Continue reading